What’s in a name?

Well…dont ask me why this has been pounding away at the forefront of my cranial lobe. Its a question I would like to ask the women of the world.

And it goes a little something like this.

How do you feel about getting married and taking the mans last name?

Does it bother you? Do you feel the need to carry on your families name or is it a way of devoting your life to your partner for eternity?

I’ve noticed many more hyphenated names coming across my desk these days.

I know speaking from a mans point of view, the last name of the family must live on. Your father built the reputation of your surname with his bare hands and it is your honor and duty to carry the name on with as much prestige as it had the day you were born. It seems like the concept is something that would fall on King Authur’s plate but I have a lot of pride in my heritage and last name and all of the family who represent it. Except for those in Scotland…we try to deny their relation.

Please…I would like this to be my first blog where comments and questions and all of our opinions are heard.

Electronically yours…



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7 comments on “What’s in a name?
  1. gormanizm says:


  2. Lizzie says:

    It would be cool to hyphenate my name since I’ve had this last name for 24 years but I’ll prolly not bother and just take my husband’s name. I don’t feel that strongly about it one way or the other.

  3. Keith Brooks says:

    Coming from a gay man’s perspective, I would say that adopting the other partner’s surname entirely is not very common. Perhaps this comes from a rejection of heteronormative values or because this option was simply not available for gay and lesbian couples until recently.

    I can understand your point about carrying on the family name, particularly because of a sense of patronage to one’s relatives. If I do decide to get married, I might hyphenate my last name. My surname does not mean as much to me as it does to you, but I think it would be interesting to hyphenate, as it seems like I’d share the other person’s ties to his heritage.

    Of course, I am totally vain and it would depend on how it sounds.

  4. *Jen* says:

    Definitely have thought about this as well… I’ve had my name now for 23 years and I’m kinda used to it. It flows. I can write it quickly and neatly. However, when you get married, you are connected to that person and one way to show that is to take his last name. I am not saying I would never consider hyphenating, but it’s a tradition… why fix what isnt broken?

  5. Vicki says:

    I actually was discussing this with a friend last week. My personal reason is probably different than most but I’m actually eager to get rid of my maiden name. As you mentioned that a man’s surname and reputation go hand in hand (although frankly, i feel that’s an antiquated view and not really applicable to today’s society), I’d much like to get away from the name my father has created. Anyhow, while I have no problem with wanting to take on your husband’s last name and becoming part of his family, I also can understand why women choose to hyphenate. Women were considered property of their husband, which was part of the reason to take his name…you were no longer your own person, you were the wife of ___. In today’s world women are allowed to be their husband’s partner…so hyphenating makes sense when you look at it that way. Just as partners in a business are proud to display their last names together, why shouldn’t a woman be proud to show where she comes from even once she decides to unite with the man she loves?

    Anyhow, I guess my point is I see the point in either way…but I’m old fashioned in that I’d willingly and happily take on the surname of the man I choose to marry. That’s why I don’t bother dating anyone with a last name I don’t like 😉

  6. Alana B says:

    I personally would take my husband’s last name..There are enough guys in my family to keep my last name! But, for facebook purposes I’d totally put Beightol in paranthesis so people know who I am and where I come from.. =]

  7. Laura says:

    In all honesty, I’ve considered keeping my last name, getting rid of it all together and adopting my husband’s last name, and removing my middle name and replacing it with my last name. My female cousins have all chosen to replace their middle names. My male cousins have obviously kept theirs. And those that have married in to my family have all taken on our family last name. There’s more than enough of us around to carry on the last name.

    As mentioned in previous comments, taking on a last name is an antiquated custom and was done to describe ownership. Whose land is that? O’Malley’s. Whose cattle? O’Malley’s. Who does that woman belong to? O’Malley.

    I think that it is a tradition to take on a last name, but not a necessary one and one that could be discussed between each couple. When my father remarried, his wife did not take on our family name. She has created a reputation with her last name in the professional opera performance world and to give up her last name would make her less recognizable.

    When my sister gets married this September, she will keep her name and so will her wife. (Yes, she and her wife – thank goodness for those progressive states). They will be married, but neither of them will give up their names. They believe that the name exchange is heteronormative, antiquated, and symbolic – not necessary.

    So there’s my couple of cents. Take it or leave it – though Matt… you asked for it.

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